As Coronavirus (COVID-19) sweeps the world and makes international headlines every day, all of us are going into lockdown to curb the spread of this new virus.
Avoiding contact with others by practicing social distancing is frustrating, but it’s also life-saving for millions of people. The important thing is for all of us to be patient, smart and cautious as we wait out the storm.
Self-isolation can be intense, especially for people who are dating and/or in open relationships. Social gatherings and events have been canceled—including and especially play parties—which is a total barrier to creating and maintaining close connections and intimacy with others.
So, we horny folks have to find our pleasures anywhere we can get them!
Here are some tips to keep things hot at home.
Regulate Your Stress
Feeling anxious can diminish your libido, so managing your stress level is key and the first step to helping you feel sexy. Take breaks from the news and social media. Meditate. Exercise. Get some fresh air and go for a walk or run outside (keeping your distance from others on the street). Dance around the house naked. Listen to music that brings you good vibes. Sing at the top of your lungs. Distract yourself with a good book, a movie or TV series, or a fun board or card game. Stay connected to loved ones by phone, Skype, FaceTime and/or other technologies. Do absolutely anything that helps you feel more relaxed and less isolated.
Take Space for Yourself
Cabin fever can make anyone feel frustrated and antsy, especially for those of us living with our partner(s) and/or other people. And frustration definitely doesn’t make us feel sexy! Make sure you have some alone time to create a mental and/or physical space for decompressing. Clearing your mind will give you the space to embrace your Lexual self.
Remind Yourself That You’re Sexy
Take a break from your media updates. Instead, do something that makes you feel like your foxy self. Read an erotic story, watch some porn, take a luxurious bubble bath, light some candles, and wear something that makes you feel confident and naughty. Try anything that can slip you into a more erotic headspace.
Have Dirty Phone Sex
Try out some role-playing with some good old-fashioned phone sex! You and your partner(s) can create different personas for yourselves and explore new fantasies together. Be descriptive about the setting, what you’re wearing, the things you want them to do to you, and the things you want to do to them. Devise your fantasy over the phone now and enact it at a later time when you’re physically together again.
Sext Each Other
Stay connected with your lovers with filthy text messages. Spontaneously send your lover some sexts and remind them that you’re thinking about them. Try something like “What would you do to me if I was standing naked in front of you right now?” or “I was just remembering how good your tongue feels between my legs” and other dirty prompts. For inspiration, check out some of my hot sexting tips.
Sexperiment
What better time to break out your sex toys! Maybe you have a gadget or gizmo you haven’t played with in awhile, or a new addition to your collection that you haven’t experimented with yet.
If you’re isolating by yourself, take this time to rediscover your body all over again. Try masturbating in new positions you don’t often use or that you’ve never tried before. Caress yourself with a different kind of touch, or brush items over your body that have sensual tactile sensations, like feathers or silk. Focus on stimulating each and every one of your erogenous zones.
If you’re staying home with your partner, infuse novelty into your sexual repertoire and try a new sex position together. You can also get creative and create a fantasy jar together: Each of you can write down something sexy that you want to try on strips of paper—then draw one and try it out. Adding a sex toy or three to the mix creates even more erotic possibilities…
Connect With Others Online
Dating sites like SDC.com give you a variety of options for connecting you with other like-minded people, such as group messenger, sharing videos and photos, and more. You can contribute to SDC’s community blogs and meet new open-minded individuals and couples who you can connect with in-person at a later date.
Reinvent Date Night
Going out on the town to a restaurant, club, movie or anywhere else isn’t possible right now—so it’s time to get extra creative!
If you’re living with your partner(s), turn off your phones and focus only on each other. Get dressed up as though you’re about to go somewhere fancy. Try cooking a new recipe together, preferably with aphrodisiacal ingredients, if you have them on hand. Play a sexy game like Strip Poker or Naked Twister. Or think of an erotic theme for the evening, like an Eyes Wide Shut-style night where you both wear masks and put on your sexiest gear.
If you aren’t living with your partner(s), decide in advance about a sexy theme for your video date. Then surprise each other with whatever you’re wearing (or not wearing, preferably!). Increase the intimacy of your connection by asking each other deep and sexy questions that you might ask a new partner, like “When was the earliest you remember wanting to have sex?” and “What was your first kiss like?” Reminiscing about past eroticism will prime you both for some hot cybersex.
