How to Choose a Sex Toy

It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the plethora of gadgets designed to help get you off.  Regular masturbation is linked to improved physical, mental and emotional health. A good way to keep both your masturbation routine and your sexual and/or romantic relationships interesting is by learning how to incorporate sex toys into your repertoire. You’ll discover that some toys have stronger vibes than others and some now even have pulsing options. There’s something for everyone! Here’s a run-down of the types of toys that are available. It helps if you know what type of stimulation you and your partner respond to. Start there, and then branch out to different types of stimulation.

Getting Started

It’s usually easier to experiment on your own through masturbation and then apply that to your partnered relationship. Knowing how to turn it on and use it ahead time may help you feel more comfortable. However, that doesn’t work for everyone. Sometimes there is the concern that masturbating with a toy on your own would give the impression to your partner that you don’t “need” them sexually anymore, and some even equate it to cheating on their partners. Sex toys are not meant to replace anyone, and they can be used expand and enrich your sex life. There are many men who are tired of initiating everything sexual in their relationships; in fact it could be a turn-on for them to have their partner add something new. I can’t tell how many men have come to me complaining that their girlfriends and wives never initiate or bring anything new into their sexual relationship.

Communicate

Finding ways to bring up the subject of using a vibrator may be difficult. Many people find just bringing up the subject intimidating. Even couples with the best communication skills find it difficult to discuss sex openly. Perhaps you can whisper the idea in his ear during your next sexual encounter, and bring up that you’ve fantasized about him using a vibrator on you, or go online and begin exploring the world of sex toys together one evening over a glass of wine. Communicating your sexual desires can not only bring you more sexual satisfaction, but can also deepen your relationship as a whole. It can bring you both to a new level of intimacy that you can explore together. Adding a vibrator to your sexual repertoire is a good place to start and there are a few great places to shop that I can recommend. 

The Clitoris

Many women – some estimates put it at 70% — have more orgasmic response with clitoral stimulation.  Many vibrators are specifically designed for the clitoris, but you’ll find there are many options  

Penis-Shaped Vibes

You can also try a more penis shaped vibe that you can insert vaginally or anally (just make sure it has a flared base).

Discreet Vibes

You can also try smaller, more discreet vibes to apply directly anywhere.

Dual Vibes

This type of vibrator stimulates vaginally and clitorally simultaneously. You’ll also want to experiment with the type of vibration as well. There can be several options included on each vibrator.

Couples Vibes

This is usually a a vibrating penis ring that you both get stimulation from. This can help the female partner achieve more orgasms in more positions.

G-spot and Prostate Vibes

Both of these types have a similar design as the G-Bliss - the O-Maker vibrator and prostate are related anatomically. With these, both partners can learn to have an all new kind of orgasm.

Anal Toys

Both men and women tend to surprise themselves with how much they enjoy anal stimulation when you have the right tools.