While most of us can be intimidated taking off our clothes during sex, some people state that sexual anxiety takes over and ruins the entire encounter.
There you are, exposing yourself with nowhere to hide.
Some people are so afraid of letting their physical and emotional walls down that it prevents them from enjoying true intimacy. Instead, they’re filled with sexual anxiety that can detract from intimate encounters.
Sexual anxiety can range from mild nervousness about things like body image, to full-blown anxiety attacks that stop people from having sex at all.
Performance Anxiety
A lot of people have anxiety issues around whether they’ll be able to “perform” when called upon. Penises can be a bit unreliable.
If worry over performance continues it can turn into a serious mental block.
For some people, whether they’ll be able to maintain an erection enters their mind the minute there is an attraction with someone else.
Like any anxiety attack, worries over performance build and build until it’s all they can think about.
People with penises also worry about premature ejaculation. It’s more common than you’d think.
According to the Mayo Clinic, 1 out of 3 penis and testicle-bodied humans say they deal with premature ejaculation or have dealt with premature ejaculation in the past.
When there’s so much pressure on being able to please your partner, it’s easy to see why someone who’s had that happen would experience sexual anxiety.
Body Image
While we hate to stereotype, generally speaking, penis and testicle-bodied humans have less trouble looking in the mirror than their vagina-bodied counterparts.
Traditionally, men didn’t have to deal with the same societal pressure placed on other genders by the media and fashion.
However, this has changed with the advent of digital options. The ideal physique is communicated a lot through all types of advertising, social media and even porn.
Penis and testicle-bodied humans, often struggle with sexual anxiety around the size and look of their genitals. Maybe your penis curves or has a slight bend in it.
Perhaps you are concerned about the fact that you are, or aren’t circumcised.
Lack of Experience
This applies to anyone who is seen as the one “in charge.”
In many sexual encounters, many penis-bodied humans FEEL there is an expectation that they ought to take the lead.
That might be ok if you’ve got a lot of sexual experience, but it can trigger sexual anxiety for people who don’t want that type of pressure.
We all worry about, to a varying degree, reading sexual cues or being able to please our partner.
Ways to Help Reduce Sexual Anxiety:
- Breathe in and out through your belly. Focus more on your exhales.
- Masturbate with a condom on to try a new way of experiencing sensation!
- Increase the use of sex toys, such as those that provide clitoral stimulation. This will help take the pressure off your penis and bring excitement to the moment.
You are in charge of your own arousal and your partner is in charge of theirs. Don’t force yourself to be the deliverer of orgasms to your partner, because it is way too much pressure!
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