Have you ever wondered if you should buy a vibrator for your wife or partner? If so, you are definitely not alone. I have spoken to a few readers who were pondering whether or not they should buy a vibrator or dildo for their wife. Each one had their own, personal reasons for doing so. But is it a good idea?
The answer to that question is yes and no, depending on the situation and why each person wanted to buy a vibrator for their partner. Therefore, because this is a very popular question for readers, I have put together 5 great reasons why you should or shouldn’t buy a vibrator for your wife or partner.
5 Reasons Why You Should Buy a Vibrator for Your Wife
I some cases, I would definitely give the green light to someone wanting to buy a vibrator for their partner. Of course, making this decision depends fully on a few things like consent, whether or not your partner has expressed interest and what your partner likes. You can read more about that in the shouldn’t section below.
However, if your partner has expressed interest in vibrators and other sex toys, here are 5 reasons why you should buy a vibrator for your wife or partner.
1. So Many Vibrator Types to Choose From
The first reason why you should buy a vibrator for your wife or partner is that out of all sex toys, vibrators come in the most styles. It used to be that the majority of vibrators were created specifically for females.
However, you can find vibrating sex toys for every person and body part imaginable! Here are just some of the types of vibrators you can buy:
- G-spot vibrators
- Clitoral stimulators
- Vibrating cock rings
- Anal vibrators and vibrating butt plugs
- Multi-function vibrators
- Bullet vibrators
With so many vibrator types to choose from, if your partner wants you to buy a vibrator for them, you may have to buy a few!
2. You Don’t Vibrate
Never, in my 30-year career dealing with and writing about sex toys and sex, have I ever known of someone choosing a vibrator over having sex with another human.
“No thanks. I would rather masturbate with my cold, lifeless vibrator than having a hot, passionate make-out session with you followed by earth-shattering orgasms.”
That is, unless you have taken a vow of chastity or we are in the middle of a global pandemic – wow, never thought I would have to point that out.
The truth be told, the vast majority of sex toy users do so to add a new dimension to sex and not to replace it entirely. Furthermore, you don’t vibrate. (FYI, if you do, you may want to see a doctor.)
Vibration is an incredible thing, when pressed against your private parts. Now, combine vibrations with sweaty, erotic sex with another human and you’ve just iced the cake, added ice cream, sprinkles and a cherry on top!
In other words, adding a vibrator to your passionate love-making sessions spices things up and opens up a whole new level of orgasm possibilities. So yes, this is definitely a reason you should buy a vibrator for your wife or partner!
3. Vibrators are Versatile
Another reason why you should buy a vibrator for your wife or your intimate partner is that vibrators are versatile. Sure, you can use the ole “insert tab A into slot B,” however, with so many types of vibrators out there, you can use them in so many naughty and satisfying ways. For instance, you can….
- Use a bullet vibrator for a sensual and muscle relaxing massage.
- Watch your partner masturbate or do so for your partner.
- Stimulate your wife’s clitoris during foreplay and love-making.
- Give your partner a mind-blowing orgasm without touching them with your body.
So, engage your imagination, buy a vibrator for your wife and add a thrilling, new dimension to your sex life.
4. Buy a Vibrator for Better Orgasms
The next reason you should buy a vibrator for your wife or partner is that it can enhance orgasms. You see, the more we explore our bodies, alone or with a partner, the more we learn about what gets us off. For example, all those solo sessions as a teen taught you what felt good – speed, pressure, etc. The same can be said about using a vibrating sex toy.
Therefore, if you buy a vibrator for your wife or partner, it gives you another tool to use to enhance orgasms. Use the vibrator to massage, tease and tantalize; slowly bringing your partner to the brink of climax. Then, send them over the edge and into orgasmic bliss any way you please.
5. The Rare and Wonderful Mutual Orgasm
In a 2017 sexual study on 2,000 women between the ages of 18 and 94, Indiana University researchers discovered that:
“Nearly 37 percent of women responded that they needed clitoral stimulation to come, and another 36 percent responded that while they didn’t require clitoral stimulation to orgasm, it did enhance the experience. Eighteen percent of respondents said vaginal penetration alone was sufficient for orgasm, and 9 percent reported that they didn’t have orgasms during intercourse, or achieved orgasm in other ways, such as oral sex.”
As reported in a Vice article.
Older research has shown that 75% of women need clitoral stimulation to reach climax; leaving only 25% of women who can orgasm from intercourse alone. Therefore, if you want a better chance of experiencing the rare and wonderful mutual orgasm with your partner, you might want to buy a vibrator.
My suggestion would be a small, bullet-type vibrator, finger vibrator or a vibrating penis ring to give her direct clitoral stimulation during love-making and increasing the chance of reaching the big-o together.
5 Reasons You Should Not Buy a Vibrator for Your Wife
Now that we have covered all of the reasons why you should buy a vibrator for your wife or partner, we need to talk about the all-important reasons why you shouldn’t.
In all honesty, I am not trying to talk you out of making that sex toy purchase.
Rather, I am giving you a little bit of guidance in the event you simply aren’t sure.
1. She’s Never Mentioned Sex Toys
If she has never mentioned sex toys to you before, it’s definitely not a good idea to buy a vibrator for your wife or partner. First of all, consent is the most important thing in any intimate relationship. Therefore, if you suddenly bring home a sex toy, your partner may feel pressured into using it.
In addition, there may be personal reasons for your partner never mentioning sex toys. For instance, she may never have tried a vibrator before or she might have personal or religious reasons for not wanting to use sex toys. So, the best thing to do in this situation is to have a talk with your partner about sex toys. That way, you can learn why they’ve never brought up the subject.
Who knows? Your partner may surprise you and say they’ve wanted to try a vibrator but didn’t know how to breach the subject with you.
2. Doesn’t Like the Feeling
The next reason why you shouldn’t buy a vibrator for your wife or partner is that they may not like the feeling of a sex toy. Let’s face it, we all have different preferences when it comes to arousal and sex. Some of us like it hard and fast, some like it slow and sensual and some of us like it any way we can possibly get it.
We’re not picky, just horny!
Likewise, the feeling of a vibrator on certain body parts may be too much. For example, using a larger, more rumbly vibrator on her clitoris may be much more comfortable than a tiny, buzzy vibrator.
I get that, small, buzzing vibrators make me have to pee.
Therefore, it’s extremely important that you talk these things over with your partner before buying her a vibrator.
3. You Think You No Longer Satisfy Her
You may be surprised at the number of men who want to buy a vibrator or dildo for their wife because they feel they can’t satisfy her due to erectile dysfunction or having a small penis. However, the men I have talked to admit that their partner never asked for a dildo or expressed her displeasure in sex.
So, if for some reason, you feel you aren’t sexually satisfying your partner, please don’t buy a vibrator for them. Instead, sit down and talk about it. You may learn that your wife actually needs stronger clitoral stimulation or to use more lubricant yet hasn’t brought it up for fear of alienating you or embarrassing herself.
Plus, there are so many sex toys out there to enhance penis girth, give her clitoral stimulation or just add a much-needed, sensual spark to a sexual relationship. But first, you need to learn what’s going on with your partner and yourself.
4. It’s Your Fantasy, Not Hers
Do you fantasize about using ginormous dildos on your wife? Do you dream about making her orgasm using a vibrator?
Congratulations, you are having typical sexual fantasies about the one that you love. But hold-on there! Never, ever buy a vibrator for your wife or partner because it’s your fantasy.
Surprise sex toys are never a great idea. First off, presenting someone with an unsolicited monster-sized, silicone dong may send them running for the hills. And secondly, your partner may feel pressured into using the sex toy with you, even though it’s something they’ve never desired.
Therefore, it’s crucial to (again, I know) talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies. But don’t worry, this isn’t one of those, “We need to talk.” conversations that scare the utter-crap out of all of us. Rather, asking, “Tell me about your sexual fantasies.” is a loving conversation starter that sometimes can lead to some pretty hot make-out sessions.
5. You’re Trying to Improve Your Relationship
Another reason why you shouldn’t buy a vibrator for your wife is because you think it will make your relationship better. Sure, we’ve all been in relationships that get stale or begin to have problems. That’s simply how things work when you put two different humans into a relationship for a long period of time.
However, spicing things up in the bedroom, while giving you a temporary fix, doesn’t get to the root of the problem. Yes, if the root of the problem happens to be vanilla sex, then, by all means, grab your wife now and head to the nearest lingerie and sex shop now!
But, if the problems stem from in-laws, not having alone time or work stresses, not even the biggest, most expensive vibrator on the planet won’t solve those problems.
So, hold off on buying that sex toy for your partner until you figure out exactly what it is your relationship needs.
Ready to Buy a Vibrator for Your Wife?
After reading all of the reasons you should or shouldn’t buy a vibrator for your wife, I’m sure you have your mind made up. So, if you’re ready to shop for a vibrator or other sex toy, head to your local lingerie and sex shop or order something online from places like Lovehoney or another specialty shop.
Some brands to consider for formidable vibrators are LELO, We-Vibe, Womanizer, Satisfyer and Lovense.
But, if you’re going to hold off on making that purchase, great! Here’s to having a wonderful talk about sex and intimacy with your partner. Hopefully, that will open so many exciting and adventurous doors for the both of you.
